Mums, what advice would you give to someone BEFORE they have a baby?

I think you are very wise to be thinking like this! I don't think divorce has anything to do with having a baby or not - it's much more about having a different set of priorities. Babies are hard work, and if you have one when you are very young, you will miss out on some of the things of youth -- such as the freedom to go out when you want, and the freedom to put yourself first. That all goes when you have a child. My three children all waited until they were in their 30's to start their families and it is working out beautifully for them. They got all their travelling, partying and wild-oat-sowing before the children were born. I wish you the very best of happiness.